April is Cesarean Awareness Month, yet for nearly one-third of women, the reality of c-sections is already a presence in our lives. For many of us, c-section awareness isn’t confined to just 30 days. Instead, it started on a cold table or under fluorescent lights as they wheeled us into the OR. And it continues as we catch a glimpse of our scarred belly or when we grapple with feelings of inadequacy, questioning our bodies and abilities in the wake of childbirth.
While some may embrace a cesarean birth, for me, it was far from a welcomed experience. In the aftermath of my daughter’s birth, I struggled to come to terms with the physical and emotional pain the unplanned surgery left me in. Unlike most major surgeries, c-sections typically lack adequate medical follow-up. Consequently, many women have to navigate their c-section recovery alone.
But here’s an important truth, as with all things in motherhood, we aren’t meant to do it alone. Whether your c-section was six weeks ago or six years ago, there is support available to promote healing long after the stitches have been removed.
Below are things that you can add to your routine during your c-section recovery to alleviate trauma and promote healing:
Pelvic Floor Therapy
Pelvic Floor Therapy isn’t exclusively for women who have vaginal deliveries. Pregnancy itself puts strain on the pelvic floor muscles, leading to potential complications with urinary, bowel, and sexual functions.
Also, abdominal muscles are damaged during c-sections, but you can re-establish a connection to your core by gentle breathing and pelvic floor exercises – as directed by a professional.
Scar Massage
For women who’ve undergone a c-section, dealing with discomfort, numbness, and tightness around the scar is common. Scar massage can be incredibly helpful in fostering softer, more supple scar tissue. It aids in preventing the formation of a bulge, often referred to as a “c-section shelf”. It also improves flexibility and mobility in the area.
EMDR Therapy
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Therapy is a technique for professionals to use to facilitate recovery from traumatic experiences. Don’t let the name scare you; EMDR will not desensitize you to your baby. Instead, it alleviates the rawness of a traumatic childbirth or postpartum period, allowing for a more objective processing of these events. This modality takes time and patience but can result in long-term healing.
Support Groups
Connecting with other women, particularly those who have faced similar challenges with their c-section experiences, can be incredibly empowering. The non-profit organization International Cesarean Awareness Network (ICAN) provides free monthly support groups centered around education, recovery, and advocacy. The Central MA Chapter is launching in-person meetings this spring. ICAN also offers virtual meetings on a national level.
As you mother your child, also remember to mother yourself. Offer yourself grace and compassion as you grow alongside your little one.
