My husband and I are very fortunate to have each other and the support of our loved ones to help us with our son. They say it takes a village, and we certainly use ours! A couple of weeks ago, my husband and I had the opportunity to have a few-day-getaway, just the 2 of us, to Manchester, VT. Instead of trying to compromise on music, sitting in silence, or one of us scrolling through social media, we spent our trip finding fun (and some hard) conversation starters.
This not only made the time pass but also helped us to reminisce about some of our great pastimes, allowed us to be vulnerable with one another, and helped deepen the conversation about topics that may, at times, be difficult to discuss. The good thing about conversation starters is that you can be anywhere—on a walk, in the car, at the dinner table, relaxing on the couch, or lying in bed. The other good thing is that this can be for any couple, whether you are new in your relationship or “well-established.” My husband and I have been married for 12 years and together for 3 years before that, and we still enjoy this time connecting together. Communication is definitely one of the key factors in any relationship, and this is a fun way to get the conversation flowing or a fun way to reveal something embarrassing about your past!
Now, there are companies that sell “conversation starter” games, but many are available online for free, downloadable, and available in many different topics (favorite sport, movie, TV show, some are romantic, some are harder, but there is something for everyone). If you’re feeling ambitious, though, create your own list of conversation starters!
Here are 25 conversation starters for you and your spouse or partner to use:
- What first attracted you to me?
- What is your favorite memory of us?
- What is your favorite part of being a parent?
- Where do you see us and our family in 5 years? How about 10 years?
- What was a holiday tradition that you did as a kid that you want to continue with our family?
- If I were an animal, what would I be and why?
- Where is a place that you would like to travel to, what would you like to do there, and who would you bring?
- Who helped you to become who you are today?
- If you could design a dream job for me, what would it be and why?
- What has changed about me? Is this a good thing, and why?
- What cartoon character are you most like and why?
- What is your favorite childhood memory?
- Who was your first celebrity crush?
- If you could have any superpower, what would it be and why?
- How have we overcome some of our challenges?
- What are our biggest strengths?
- If you could live anywhere (money aside), where would it be and why?
- What is a new activity, food, or experience that we can try together?
- If our lives were a movie or TV show, what would it be and why?
- What is one of my “quirks?”
- What was your favorite subject in school?
- What was a challenging time in your life, and how did you get through it?
- What are some goals that you have for our child/ren’s future?
- What is your idea of a romantic date?
- What is your biggest fear, and how do you try to overcome it?
Are there any conversation starters that you could add to this list? Share them in the comments!
