My first few Mother’s Days were spent catering to the mother figures in my life. I received the typical bouquet of flowers and card, but the day wasn’t exactly mom friendly. Each year that passed, the excitement diminished and the routine brunch became lackluster. If I’m being honest, dining out with small children is my least favorite activity and let me explain why. By the time a mother is able to eat her food, it’s cold, the children are attempting to crawl under the table and everyone is overstimulated.
A few years ago, I decided to take matters into my own hands and take full control of my own Mother’s Day. I experienced hyperemesis gravidum with all of my pregnancies and as far as my esophagus and I are concerned, we earned it. I spent weeks formulating my version of the perfect day in my mind.
The activities for my day had to meet the following criteria:
- It had to make me relax, actually shut my brain & phone off
- Make me happy – as in bring my heart actual joy.
Sharing my unique plan with my husband was nerve racking. One night after dinner, I just blurted it out. “I’m going to get a massage on Mother’s Day & spend the morning by myself.” My face immediately felt flushed and I was riddled with guilt and pangs of selfishness. Much to my surprise, my husband responded with “I think that’s a great idea!” My heart exploded, as a result of his support and I immediately booked my appointment.
It’s been a few years now, and I have perfected my personal version of Mother’s Day. I leave before everyone wakes up. I stop for an iced coffee on the way, put my windows down and turn my radio up. I get a massage and spend the rest of the morning poolside. I sit in the hot tub and eat lunch on the deck solo. It fills my cup, recharges my personal battery and I’m a better mom when I return home.
The moral of the story is this: It’s your day, so take control of your happiness. Decide on an activity that soothes your soul and make it a priority to do it. Don’t feel guilty, but rather embrace it.
Take this as your sign because you deserve it mama!
