Imagine this. Sneakers, backpacks, homework, and jackets are flying everywhere. Kids rush in like they’re the Tasmanian Devil and then bombard you with a million questions. Needless to say, it’s frustrating. It’s overwhelming. You probably just stepped through the door, so everyone’s energy and emotions are at a peak. What are some ways to calm everything down and regulate not only yourself but also your little ones?
Having the predictability of an after-school routine is ideal because it helps our brains and nervous systems stay calm and settled. Here are 5 after-school ideas for a calm home:
Have a designated area for all our things, like shoes, jackets, and backpacks.
When things are scattered about the house, your brain and nervous system start to feel chaotic and out of control, creating more chances for big reactions like angry outbursts at simple questions.
Create a picture-based routine chart.
Visual routines can lead to fewer power struggles and calmer days. Visual schedules help soothe the nervous system and make transitions easier. Kids coming from the school bus or after-school activities often have high energy. Seeing their checklist and knowing what they need to do helps them transition smoothly into the next part of their day. It also removes the guesswork about what needs to be done.
Have a snack ready.
Kids are always hungry. It may seem like one other thing that you need to do, but to already have a plate on the table eliminates all the whining of “Mom, I’m hungry,” “Mom, what can I eat,” “Mom, I’m starving”. Bonus points if it’s a plate of veggies. I saw it on Instagram. Just put it out, and they eat it, especially if that’s the only thing on the menu.
Allow a short break or some unstructured play time.
We were all go-go-go before walking through the door. To help with our nervous system regulation, a bit of alone or play time can help us de-stress and find some time just for ourselves.
Make dinner and enjoy family time.
I know that finishing everything is the main goal, but sometimes we need to slow down. I remember that one day my son will have to make dinner for himself, so why not involve him now? Uninterrupted time together, away from screens, is a win. Extra points if you can make it fun.
Something that helps me stay grounded in motherhood is that my son will remember how he felt around me, not our routine. This routine is not only for them but for you, too. Coming home from a busy day out in the world, your home should be your safe space. I hope these tips are helpful and bring more mindfulness into your home. Slowing down and staying aware of what you do and how you do it can help you and your family stay grounded and hopefully have a lot happier times together.
